How much time do you waste judging others? I would love to say that I waste zero time doing this, but that would be a 100% lie. I wish it could be the truth, (maybe someday), but unfortunately it isn’t just yet. If I could change one thing about myself, physically or mentally, I would definitely change how I sometimes feel that it’s okay to judge other people. It is NOT okay to judge people, and I wish more people knew this.
If you want to be TRULY happy, you have to STOP all the judgement towards others. I obviously need to take my own advice, because sometimes I, myself, can be very judgmental. I judge other peoples clothing choices. I judge others personalities. I judge peoples hair. I even judge some peoples finger nail polish colors sometimes. What you need to know about all of this is:::::: IT IS NOT OKAY. Even if you do say something like “no offense to dear Shelly over there, but her jeans look like she wrestled a rat in the wilderness.” Just because you say “no offense, but….” or “don’t get me wrong, but…” or, the one that I hear the most, “I LOVE so-and-so, but…,” guys, lets be real with ourselves, this is also not okay. It is still a form of judgement, and it still hurts the people who you are saying it about.
Here’s the thing: this all leads back to self-love, just like most other struggles you may have. If we were 100% happy and confident with ourselves, we would be way less likely to judge others. Think about it, if you are unhappy with yourself, don’t you think you will also be unhappy with other people? But, what if you woke up everyday happy with yourself and your life? You would be more likely to applaud other people who are just trying to do the same thing as you, and that is just merely survive this chaotic, rough-at-times, amazing thing called LIFE. People are going to be who they want to be, do what they want to do, and succeed how they plan to succeed, so why don’t we, as bystanders watching from the crowds, just do our part and encourage these people who are just trying to make the most out of life. Instead of using your judgement, which is only going to slow down these people trying to succeed, why don’t we use our motivation, and make the road to success easier and happier for these people? The world would be a much happier place, and we would all be way happier people.
On one of my first posts on my blog, I posted a quote, and I feel that it is very, very relevant in this post.
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”-Philo
Sometimes I will be at school, and I will be going on with my day, whether it is good or bad, and someone will say something like “oh so and so said this about you,” or “oh my gosh is (whatever the rumor is) really true??!!” Let me just say, my parents have dealt with some bad days of me coming home crying, or being very, VERY mad about some of the judgmental things that are said about me, and I am here to say this: stop letting rude, judgmental comments affect your version of a happy life. So what someone says something rude about you, you will waste your time by thinking twice about it. What people say behind your back is not your business, so just let it be. Learn to ignore it, and your life will be so much easier. For me, there are certain people who can talk bad about me, or judge me, and I will think about it for days. I so need to stop this. Most of the time I am so good about ignoring the bad things being said, but I don’t know what happens, and it’s like I just snap when these certain, like, 1 or 2 people say something rude or hateful about me. If you are the same way, STOP LETTING IT AFFECT YOU! I am taking my own advice here as well, haha. Like I said, and I can’t stress this enough, the sooner you stop caring about the rude remarks being said about you, the better your life will become. You will also become a happier person this way, so just ignore the bad, and praise the good.
As I have worked more and more on not being as judgmental, one thing that has helped me so, so, so much is saying this to myself when I feel the urge to judge someone: “You never know what their current situation is.” Maybe you see a kid in a grocery store screaming and you think “oh my gosh this parent needs to get control of her psycho kid!” Trust me, I’m 13 years old and I think that all the time. After I think this, though, I always think… “Ady, don’t say that if you don’t know their life story.” Maybe the mom of that awful child works night shifts so that she can afford to pay for her family, and she’s too tired to discipline her kid. Who knows. Just remember, YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT SOMEONE COULD BE GOING THROUGH IN THEIR PERSONAL LIFE! I can’t stress that enough.
So, if you take nothing out of this whole post today, just keep in mind one thing: judgement is not okay!!!!! Please remember that!
Disclaimer: I am so sorry it took me so long to post this, my life has been super crazy-busy, and I’ll try my hardest to start posting more. (although no promises, haha) Thank you if you are reading up to this point, it means so much. This topic has been on my mind for a while now, but I am just now actually sitting down to type this. Anyways, I hope you enjoyed this post, and don’t forget to set your clocks foward tonight!!! Xoxo -ADY MEEK<3